How to Send a Facebook Friend Request

by Wendy Chamberlain on September 2, 2011

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With over 800 Million users of Facebook, this top networking site has become very useful to a lot of people.

Whether you use Facebook for personal or business purposes, Facebook has benefited a greater number of people worldwide.

For those of you who are new to Facebook and still searching for people to connect with, you can increase your friends list by sending a Friend Request.

Business owners who have just set up their Facebook profile can invite friends, colleagues and people in the same industry to friends with them.

How to Find a Friend on Facebook

First,  search for the person in the search box, located in the immedate top centre of your Facebook home page, and click enter. Normally as you the type a name, Facebook will be provide you with some possible names that you might be looking for.  For example, if you are looking for someone and you are already connected to a mutual friend, chances are Facebook will then suggest the person that is connected to your mutual friend.

If a name of someone you know appears from the drop down menu, to have a look at their profile and to check that they are the correct person,  just click Enter and you’ll be directed to his or her profile page.

If it’s the right person you’re looking for, you can start the communication process and send them a request to be your friend on Facebook.

How to Send a Facebook Friend Request

When the page for the person you wish to add as a Friend loads, click on the Add as Friend button beside his or her name.

A box will then appear with a Send Request and Cancel buttons.

Before you send your friend request, though, it is a good idea to include a personal message.

How to Add a Personal Message to Your Facebook Friend Request

On the left hand side below the person’s photo, you can click on the Add a personal message to introduce a little about yourself.

If you wish, you can even add a link to your blog or website so the person you’re requesting to be your friend more about you and what you do.  Be careful with adding links this early in the connection process, however, as you do not wish to be seen as connecting purely to share your link to your business.

Adding a message to your friend request is the smart thing to do simply because so many people choose not to do it (or don’t know how to do it). By taking this one further, simple step, you’ll immediately stand out from the dozens of other requests that person may have received.

Once you’ve included a message, you can then click the Send Request button.

IMPORTANT NOTE – Facebook no longer gives you the option to send a personal message with your friend request. This blog post was created in September 2011, when this functionality WAS available.

Your request to connect will automatically show on the person’s profile page.

You will also get a notification after the person has accepted your friend request. This will show in the notifications area of your Facebook page.

Facebook can expand your network of friends, provided you know how to build relationships the right way.  Once you’ve created solid connections, it’s a great social networking site to share valuable content, meet new business friends and liaise with potential business partners.

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Connie March 23, 2012 at 9:13 am

This used to work, but it doesn’t seem to now. All I get is the “Timeline” page intro. and nowhere does it create the opportunity to comment, write to, or invite to be a friend. What’s up with this?????

Wendy Chamberlain March 23, 2012 at 9:34 am

Hi Connie,

Yes, you are correct. This did work in September but Facebook being Facebook, massive changes have occured since then.

You can no longer send a message when you friend people, in the one step. You need to add them as a friend and then click the Message button on their profile and send them the message that way.

This will only be an option for those that allow you to send a message without being a friend first. If the person has opted to only allow messages from friends, you will not be able to send them a message until your friend request is accepted.

I hope this helps.

Saeed nazemi September 14, 2012 at 3:39 pm


Wendy Chamberlain September 14, 2012 at 5:13 pm

You’re welcome Saeed. 🙂

pamela seranella February 8, 2013 at 6:23 pm

I unfriended someone, & now I’m trying to friend them again. How do I do that? Get them back as a friend?

Wendy Chamberlain February 8, 2013 at 8:58 pm

Hi Pamela,

Got to the profile of the person that you wish to add again as a friend. In the top right hand corner, immediately below the cover image will be a button called ADD FRIEND. Click that button and a friend request will be sent to the person.


Jeanne Weiske April 9, 2013 at 6:13 am

And if the link isn’t there? Some business fb pages don’t HAVE those icons.

Wendy Chamberlain April 9, 2013 at 8:31 am

Hi Jeanne,

Facebook no longer gives you a link to send a personal message at the time of sending a friend request. (this post was created in September 2011, over 18 months ago.

You can no longer send a message when you friend people, in the one step. You need to add them as a friend and then click the Message button on their profile and send them the message that way.

Depending on their message settings,that message may go into their Facebook inbox or their “other” inbox (which is where a lot of the spam gets put).


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